I know that God had me start this blog to be able to encourage people, especially girls, in real life things that maybe they think they are alone in. And I'm here to say...you are not alone.
This one goes out to my girls. My friends who are struggling with waiting. Waiting for the guys, waiting for God, waiting for love.
"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you, do not awaken love until it desires" Song of Songs 3: 5
It may not make it in the media, but this is something big going on right now, and I want to talk about it.
You hear married women tell you "if it's meant to happen, it will happen." or "just don't think about it and all of a sudden he will come when you least expect it" and us girls are like PLEASE STOP GIVING US THAT ADVICE. lol.
"Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subjective to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God" Titus 2: 4-5
I am not going to tell you to not think about it. Go ahead, think about it...pay attention to what goes on around you. This is my advice to you (and myself): Trust only God.
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones." Proverbs 3:7-8
Sometimes it's hard to trust something you can't see, and something you don't fully understand.
Or...to lay your desires at God's feet...you know...the desire you really don't want to let go of.
It isn't that God isn't good enough...or that you think He doesn't have something better.
But it's a control thing. Letting someone else decide. And the need for you to trust that person and wait.
We all don't like it. We want to know exactly when things are going to happen and we want them to go the way we want.
"For I know the plans I have for you' declares the Lord 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11
But we are flawed. We are dirty. We are small. God is not.
Yeah sure. That last statement was convicting. But nothing new, right? We all know God is big, God is good, God knows more. Yet, here we are, struggling to trust Him.
Why are we so impatient? Why are we so self centered? Why must we be in control??????...
Oh...sorry...I don't actually have the answer to those questions lol.
"See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ." Colossians 2:8
It's a daily fight! It's something we probably will never master. We may struggle for years before God actually does something before our eyes. but, He doesn't withhold from us. He doesn't wait for us to be "right enough" for His blessings. He just literally knows the perfect time. and only Him.
**In your head I know you are saying "God, the perfect time is NOW!" hahahaha I know because that's what I was thinking...
"The Lord is not slow in keeping His promises, as some of you understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance." 2 Peter 3:9
The art isn't in trusting God without any problem...Moses couldn't even do that.
The art is in knowing God is good.
"Give thanks to the Lord for He is good His love endures forever" Psalm 136: 1
If you start doubting God's love or promises...you need to get re-focused.
Everything God does, has a purpose. Everything He did in the past had a purpose. Who He was then, is who He still is. He never changes.
When I get depressed about the things I don't have, or the things that have happened to me, or what others think of me. I remind myself...yes, I tell myself...who God is.
I don't trust God because of what He has done for me, or how many of my prayers He answers. I trust Him because of who He is. All throughout His Word He wanted the best for His people and He had to do hard things.
"The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged" Deuteronomy 31: 8
We may not understand why He didn't send our husband at age 16. Or why Sally is married with a baby on the way...and she is 4 years younger than us and she never wanted kids. And here we are, we have wanted to married our whole lives and we know how to watch 15 babies all by our self. How much more qualified for the job can we get!?!!!
But God sees beyond what we see. There may be a crisis that we can't be distracted in. There may be families that need our help before we have to worry about our own. Or, God considers us faithful enough to have us wait.
Don't try and figure it out.
Don't change who you are.
Don't try a other woman's recipe for a husband...stick to the spices God gave YOU.
Trust your First Love <3
He knows what you need.
He hears your heart.
He knows you.
better than anyone.
"Your Father knows what you need before you ask Him" Matthew 6: 8
Just LOVE HIM.
Tell Him it's hard.
Cry out to Him
"Come to Me, all who are weary and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30
Hold your phone up to your ear and talk to Him rather than calling that one guy you know will always answer your call.
God is the ONLY one who can fill you.
"Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but who drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life" John 4:13-14
Don't throw away marriage.
It is still beautiful.
Don't beat yourself up blaming it on your sin.
Everyone sins.
"This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God and are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus." Romans 3: 22-24
If you are in constant pursuit of God...the pain won't be able to stay...but you won't loose your desire...your desire will be adorned, and a joy.
"For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline." 2 Timothy 1:7
Let go of what the world says about you.
Let go of what the movies say about love.
"Whatever is TRUE..." Philippians 4: 8
Study God's love.
Enjoy the marriages you get to see.
Takes notes.
Talk to your Daddy about boys.
Talk to your Mom about being a help-mate.
Go to school with JESUS. He will teach you.
Give Him your heart.
Not to change, but to care for.
"Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart" Psalm 37:4
Enjoy the brothers in Christ God has given you.
Love people.
Invest in people.
Talk to young girls.
Encourage others.
Be strong. BE COURAGEOUS.
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." Joshua 1: 9
IT WILL BE OK.
"Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of it's own" Matthew 6:34
You don't have to worry about the future.
It isn't in YOUR control.
Your emotions, your mouth and your attitude IS.
Let God worry about the future.
You just follow Him.
p.s I love you
^^^you have to admit that was good ;)
"So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what He has promised." Hebrews 10: 35-36
